Safer Sex

Glad you’ve found this page. Having safer sex is one of the most important things you can do to protect you and your partners from getting an STD/STI (sexually transmitted diseases and infections), and keep your sex life happy and healthy.

Firstly, it’s important to note that ANYONE can get an STI, anyone! People who haven’t had sex before, married people, people in committed relationships, people having their first time together, porn stars, your neighbors, everyone. HIV and all other STIs show up in every single race, gender and sexual orientation; they don’t discriminate.

Sex activities can be divided into 3 kinds of “danger zones,” low risk, medium risk, and high risk (things like hugging, massages, dry humping with clothes on and masturbating are in the danger-free zone). Risk is the risk of sharing/transferring/passing on/contracting an STI. These are all based on unprotected activities.

Some low-risk activities (little chance of getting/giving an STI)

• Kissing (lips, oral, all over the body except for the genital region)
• Nude dry humping

Some medium-risk activities (definite exposure to an STI, possible transfer)

• Oral-genital sex (going down on a woman, going down on a man, ‘eating out,’ ‘blow jobs’)
• Frottage (a fancy word for rubbing a penis between the vaginal lips or ass cheeks)
• Oral-anal sex (licking the anus, ‘rimming’)

Some high-risk activities (way too scary a chance of getting/giving an STI)

• Penis in vagina sex
• Penis in anus sex (anal)

Depending on who you’re talking to, some people will put oral-anal and oral-genital sex in the high-risk category.

So what can you do to protect yourself from these STIs? Good question.

For blow jobs (mouth to penis), using a condom is your best bet. They make flavored condoms, flavored lube, etc. It does not feel that different, and to be honest, which feels worse: a condom on your penis or Chlamydia in your mouth? Some sex workers have even perfected the trick of applying a condom with their mouth, and usually their clients never know the difference. If you put a little lube inside the tip of the condom before rolling it on, he’ll feel a lot more sensation.